Monday, September 25, 2006

I missed everything.

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Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Bravely ( adverb )

:)

But for me

it was -_-

I think this is enough to mark my day.

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Monday, September 18, 2006

I figure out it's kind of boring to continue sitting constantly in one spot being unproductive. Shutting off the brain is as easy as offing the air-con with a single push on the button. Curry-puff and coffe makes my morning complete.

Was talking to zy online just now and it's 7plus over in the states and it's like 11am now in sg... Can't help but to think that the moon over the sea is brighter and bigger again.

if it has been true in the past, then it's always going to be true.

Irrational as it may seem but it always have a race to run in most of our mind rite?

Like for instance to avoid making the same mistake, or avoiding hitting on the wrong thing again. Avoidance leads to abstience. It leads to elusion.. and it goes on back to a vicious cycle.. with the feelings running all wild, forming a toal eclispe over the part of rational mind. As much as trying to have totalism in oneself, we lost most of it.

Came across some self-help qns to tackle "problems"

Step 1: Is your thinking and problem solving ability being blocked by an irrational belief? Consider a specific problem as you answer the following questions:

Am I going in circles in trying to solve this problem?

Is there something inside of me that is preventing or keeping me from taking the necessary actions in this matter?

Am I bothered by the thoughts of what I or others "should do, act like, think, or feel'' in this situation?

Do I find myself saying how this situation "should be," having a hard time facing it the way it really is?

Do I use fantasy or magical thinking in looking at this problem? Am I always hoping that by some miracle it will go away?

Am I burdened by the fear of what others think of me as I work on this problem?

Do I know what the solution is, but become paralyzed in its implementation?

Do I find myself using a lot of "yes but's'' in discussing this problem?

Do I find it easier to procrastinate, avoid, divert my attention, ignore, or run away from this problem?

Is this problem causing much distress and discomfort for me and/or others, and yet I remain stumped in trying to resolve it?

Step 2: If you have answered yes to any or all of the questions in Step 1, you are probably facing a problem or situation in which a blocking irrational belief is clouding your thinking. The next thing to do is to try to identify the blocking irrational belief. Answer the following questions in your journal:

Is the blocking belief something I have believed in all my life?

Is the blocking belief coming from the teachings of my parents, church, family, peers, work, society, culture, community, race, ethnic reference group, or social network?

Is the blocking belief something that always recurs when I am trying to solve problems similar to this one?

Is the blocking belief something that has helped me solve problems successfully in the past?

Is the blocking belief one that tends to make me dishonest with myself about this problem?

Is the blocking belief an immobilizing concept that sparks fear of guilt or fear of rejection in my mind as I face this problem?

Is the blocking belief something that can be stated in a sentence or two?

Is the blocking belief a consistent statement as I face this problem, or does it tend to change as variables of this problem become more clear to me?

Is the blocking belief a tangible statement of belief or is it simply a feeling or intuition?

Can I state the blocking belief? If so, write it in your journal: My blocking belief is:



Step 3: Once you have identified the blocking belief in Step 2, test its rationality. Answer the following questions about the belief, ``yes'' or ``no.''

Is there any basis in reality to support this belief as always being true?

Does this belief encourage personal growth, emotional maturity, independence of thinking and action, and stable mental health?

Is this belief one which, if ascribed to, will help you overcome this or future problems in your life?

Is this belief one which, if ascribed to, will result in behavior that is self defeating for you?

Does this belief protect you and your rights as a person?

Does this belief assist you in connecting honestly and openly with others so that healthy, growth engendering interpersonal relationships result?

Does this belief assist you in being a creative, rational problem solver who is able to identify a series of alternatives from which you can choose your own personal priority solutions?

Does this belief stifle your thinking and problem solving ability to the point of immobilization?

When you tell others of this belief do they support you because that is the way everyone in your family, peer group, work, church, or community thinks?

Is this belief an absolute? Is it a black or white, yes or no, win or lose, no options in the middle type of belief?

Healthy answers are:

1-no 2-yes 3-yes 4-no 5-yes 6-yes 7-yes 8-no 9-no 10-no

If you are unable to give healthy answers to one or more question in Step 2, then your blocking belief is most likely irrational.

Step 4: Once you have determined that the blocking belief is irrational, you are ready to refute this irrational belief. Respond to the following questions in your journal:

How do I consistently feel when I think of this belief?

Is there anything in reality to support this belief as being true?

What in reality supports the lack of absolute truth in this belief?

Does the truth of this belief exist only in the way I talk, act, or feel about this problem?

What is the worst thing that could happen to me if I do not hold on to this belief?

What positive things might happen to me if I do not hold on to this belief?

What would be an appropriate, realistic belief I could substitute for this irrational belief?

How would I feel if I substituted this new belief for my blocking belief?

How will I grow and how will my rights and the rights of others be protected by this substitute belief?

What is keeping me from accepting this alternate belief?

Once you have answered these questions, substitute a rational belief and act on it.

My substitute rational healthy belief is:

Step 5: If you still have trouble solving problems, return to Step 1 and begin again

Hope it's will come useful to some.

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Sunday, September 17, 2006

This is more realistic! but again i need cash!!! 

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Zonda Zonda.. Fairest of all. 

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I had a nightmare yesterday night. I meant a bad dream and the phrase " one time good one good one " still run in my head.

Haha it's 1030am now and i got to rush off!!

Why is my weekend so short?!!

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Thursday, September 14, 2006

If i ever learn to metamorphose, i will like to be a tree. or maybe a piece of drifting cloud.

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Sunday, September 10, 2006

Self Sketch. 

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Thanks for the akira treat 

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Old Chinese door? less the door knob  

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Just to add on! Marcus was there. =P he don't know how to play bluff. 

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bashed.

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Saturday, September 09, 2006

With Joel. Late comer! 

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Argh! Abit messy too 

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Abit messy 

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oops! i like my face! Ha 

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weijing 

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with wilfred 

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wilfred and weijing. 

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Eh settle bil? 

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Amos. 

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Part of the class. 06/03 

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Sunday, September 03, 2006

By chance, i was reading a blog on some writing about "rebound" period. I guess a time to hit it off with another girl/guy after breaking up. I mean i see a picture of troubles from her writing. To clear up the picture, she's a complete stranger. I think there's no wrong or right, or any pointing of fingers at anyone. I mean it's nothing wrong in knowing ur ex-gf/bf was hitting on with another person. It's freedom and choices!

I mean for once u got urself hooked up with that person. And when the relationship got sore, and since both had decided to get it off and hit on the opposite direction, it's freeway! U get to drive without rules, move without restrictions! Of course, you can hit it off with another person or get back to her ( wrong get her back to u, whatever it's just a piece of ego game ). Just don't point the finger at him when u said he's cheating off u just because he knew another girl. I meant since u got him out of ur life, i don't think he meant a thing or two to you anymore ya? So, it's a cleaned closed breakup?!? ufm?

I am sorry. But it's really ufm.

But still, the connotations are there. How can you recover from heartache so easily unless you really feel the r/s meant something to you? That everything reminds you of that someone? So then, how can one quickly get a bf/gf after breaking up with one? It just portrays a very fickle person.

It just meant he's not gd enough for u, or just he's not the ONE. How funny to always believe the ONE existed because it's just too real to believe when ure in love.

Yup i though she's the ONE, but it's nothing funny to see people hitting it off with ur ex-pensive ONE.

But aiya, sometimes it can get really funny ya?

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Saturday, September 02, 2006

Me and Ujin. Some stranger in the club actually!  

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Fire extinguisher!  

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Ronny and me 

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Justin and me. 

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Friday, September 01, 2006

How funny and embrassing to read pens for penis.

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